bite-sized bits of information gleaned from my personal parenting experience.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
Stroller Madness, Part Deux
Thursday, November 17, 2011
The Pain Sacks (a.k.a. "Boobs")
Friday, October 14, 2011
A Follow-Up to the Depends Post
Friday, October 7, 2011
A post about preserving your postpartum sanity and dignity
Note: this post is for the ladies. Gentlemen, no need to delve any further, unless you don't mind TMI.
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Sneaky Spinach
So the summer is drawing to a close -- as is the deceptive illusion of perma-vacation. Ergo, back to a more consistent blogging rhythm...until Baby #2 arrives, that is (which, fingers crossed, should be around the end of this month). Although, come to think of it, I'm sure I'll have a whole host of new tidbits to blog about!
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Brain Rules for Baby, by John Medina
I know that most new parents barely have the time to take a quick shower, much less read an entire book, but I would strongly, strongly encourage expecting parents and new parents to read this book. A lot of the information overlaps with another book I recommended, NurtureShock, but there's enough new information in here that can really change the way you parent your child. Medina's a scientist, first and foremost, but he makes the science incredibly accessible, and he's funny to boot. But instead of writing a tome here, I'll just let you read the product description on Amazon. Hope it proves titillating enough that you purchase (and read) the book ASAP!
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Hold the Lipstick
If I were ever to categorize my blog entries (which I really should, I know), this one would be filed under a "WTF?" tab.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Sweet, Sweet Honey
I was reminded of this potential issue when another mommy in C's daycare told me that she had fed her 6-month old baby some honey. Normally, I'm one to flout restrictions on babies' diets (C was eating eggs and peanuts and shrimp early on in life), but, for some reason, not feeding C honey until she turned 1 was the one dietary rule I followed (perhaps so as to tempt fate or something?). So, if you're the parent of a baby and you didn't know about this rule and the reason for it, here it is:
Friday, July 22, 2011
The TRAVESTY that we call the FDA
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
"How to Talk to Little Girls" (a re-post)
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Baby Registry Madness
So I'm at that age now when all of my friends are popping out kids, and a number of them have asked me for registry advice. I've had to warn them all that I'm of the "less is better" school (perhaps a function of living in a cramped NY apartment). Overwhelmed by the plethora of baby crap out there, we ended up registering for approximately three million items -- of which we ended up using around 5. Since then, I've come up with the list I wish I had had back when I could have used it. Of course, I welcome any feedback! It's been a while since I've had to deal with this, so I'm sure my memory has failed me in some places, but I think it's a good start.
- Car seat (the kind that doubles as a stroller with the snap-on base, like the Graco SnugRide)
- Stroller (for urban moms, the lighter the better)
- Crib and crib accessories (like sheets and breathable bumpers, etc. Don’t need blankets just yet, since they’re suffocation hazards. Instead of blankets, you may initially want to try SleepSacks.)
- Lots and lots of onesies -- lots and lots of them!
- Little mittens (to keep kids from scratching themselves while sleeping)
- Baby socks and caps (lots of air conditioning everywhere, so want to keep feet and head warm)
- Pack-n-Play (important when travelling or when you want infants napping in the same room you’re working in)
- Swaddling cloths/receiving blankets (usually given out by hospitals when leaving, though maybe it was just my hospital)
- Baby monitor
- Night lights
- Breast pump (if breastfeeding, obviously)
- Bottles (Dr. Brown’s are great, but since you'll most likely be experimenting with different types, wouldn't go crazy and get hundreds of them)
- Bottle brush and drying rack
- Baby bath tub
- Would get lots of bottles of Burt’s Bees Shampoo on Body Wash (awesome product and makes fun bubbles!)
- Hooded towels (actually, probably not a must have for most people, just for P and me)
- Bumbo (little soft chairs that the kids will sit on when they can keep their heads up)
- Activity mats
- Exersaucer (lots of debate on this, as well as walkers, but we thought they were AWESOME, and they certainly didn’t hurt C)
- Jumper (again, lots of debate on this, but hours of entertainment and relief for you)
- Swingle cradle (we only used ours for a couple of months, but they did have the benefit of calming C down a number of times)
- Rocking chair (which makes for a nice way to bond with the new kid while relaxing you as well)
- Diapers (though I'm of the impression that you're going to be experimenting with diapers as well, so no need to go crazy just yet on these. If you're going to go the cloth diaper route, I'd highly recommend gDiapers!!!!)
- Diaper bag
- Portable diaper changing pads (for when you’re out and about and don’t want to put your kid on some nasty surface. Diaper bags may include this already, but check.)
- Diaper changing table/pad (though, actually, P and I just plopped C on a towel on our bed and changed diapers that way, so wasn't really a necessity for us)
- Bibs
- Little utensils and bowls/plates
- High chairs (or booster seats that you can strap on to chairs)
- Ergo (or the equivalent — hated the Moby wrap)
- Baby nail clipper (though a regular nail clipper worked just fine for C, even when she was a tiny infant)
- Health/medical kit (thermometer, nose bulb, baby aspirin, etc.)
- Teethers (like Sophie the Giraffe)
- Soft books
- Soft toys
- Developmental toys
- Diaper pail/liners (though P and I just put pee diapers in the regular trash and poopy diapers in a separate plastic bag that we would just tie and untie and eventually throw out)
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Little Piggies
So how excited am I to share this? I'd been racking my brain to come up with an activity that would be exclusively for C and me (to help ease her transition from being mama's only little girl to older sister), and I finally hit on mommy-daughter mani/pedis. But, being incredibly fearful of slathering C's poor little nails with toxic waste, I'd held off...until I came across this:
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
The Dangers of Raw Sprouts
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Organic or Conventional?
When it comes to fruits and veggies for C (and for me and the hubby, I guess), I've always tried to go organic as much as possible. But there are times when you just have to roll your eyes at the prices of organic produce -- as I did one day recently when I picked up a pack of two (2!!) bell peppers and laid eyes on the price: $7.60. I put them back, figuring that I didn't necessarily need bell peppers swaddled in fairy dust. But other than price considerations, I never quite had a system for choosing organic over conventional, or vice versa, unless you count hunches as a system. So I'm glad that the Environmental Working Group came up with this handy dandy chart of the cleanest fruits and veggies (the "Clean 15") and the dirtiest (the "Dirty Dozen", so to speak).
Friday, June 10, 2011
A Tragic Summer Reminder
Friday, May 27, 2011
Travelling with Baby
Will not elaborate on the recent nightmare trip to and from Corpus Christi, Texas (where the hubby's grandmothers reside) other than to mention several cancellations, detours, last-minute car reservations, waiting on tarmacs, and arriving in the wee hours of the morning both in Texas and back in NY. Still traumatized, to say the least, though C was quite the trooper. But what I did want to mention briefly was a pretty ingenious invention for parents travelling on planes with babies/toddlers.
Like most parents flying economy (i.e., on a budget), we've had C on our laps when stuck in planes. Given my paranoid personality, I've always been freaked out about having C completely unrestrained, held only by my admittedly out-of-shape arms. In any sudden turbulence (think of that airplane scene in the "Lost" pilot), C would pretty much be a rag doll, tossed overhead and severely injured, if not worse. Enter the Baby B'Air, which is an FAA-approved safety vest, with a strap that loops around your own safety belt. The strap is mercifully long enough to allow your child some mobility but short enough to keep him/her from flying out of your lap in the event of sudden turbulence. C never seems to mind it once it's on, and it's peace of mind for me. Here is the link to their website, if you want to check it out (the video on their site is extremely cheesy, but it makes the point):
- http://babybair.com/
Monday, May 16, 2011
Late Talker
- He's not talking because you don't make him.
- She's not talking because her older sibling talks for her.
- He's not talking because he's lazy.
- He's not talking because boys develop later.
- Don't worry; she'll grow out of it!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
NurtureShock
A friend of mine recommended this book to me, and I couldn't put it down. Dubbed the "Freakonomics of child-rearing", it certainly lived up to its hype, turning so many of my assumptions upside down. Like, apparently, the best predictor of your child's relationship with a new sibling is his/her existing relationship with a best friend. Or that praise is not necessarily a good thing (which, to be fair, I had read about in SuperBaby). Or that kids in diverse schools are less likely to have cross-racial friendships. Or that there's a specific way to get your baby to start talking. Or that spanking does not necessarily damage a kid (and that it may, in fact, actually have positive effects -- but, not to worry: neither the authors nor I are advocating spanking as a disciplinary method!). Etc. Etc. Such an interesting read -- and one that will no doubt inform the way I parent going forward. Highly recommended!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
To Slather or Not to Slather
As an admittedly paranoid mama, it's been a relief this horrifically long winter (NY mamas, you know what I mean) not to have to worry about slathering toxic sunscreens on C. In fact, quite the opposite: I've been fretting about C not getting enough sun. But now that the leaves are starting to bud, we've been fine wearing hats and long sleeves/pants for prolonged outdoor play. Fine for now, but as the weather gets warmer and warmer, there will come a day, I'm sure, when C will be whining to run around in nothing but her diapers.
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Toys Toys Toys
There was a time when I thought that kids were just fine playing with pots and pans and yogurt containers. That was before I became a mom, of course, and before I started buying every toy that caught my (then) sleep-deprived attention -- sort of a way of "keeping up with the (playdate) Joneses." Soon enough, I found myself living in an apartment overrun with admittedly useless toys, barely able to walk 2 feet before tripping over a yapping mechanical dog or a rolling plastic pig. AAAHHH!!! How to tame this chaos?
Friday, April 22, 2011
Heimlich Clear Cream Recall
Sunday, April 17, 2011
The (P)Leisure of Sleep
C was a dream sleeper for most of her young life until a traumatic trip to the ER/Pediatric ICU when she was 14 months old. Long story short, she was fine, but her awesome sleep habits suffered a major blow. So it was back to co-sleeping until just a couple of weeks ago, with the hubby kicked to the curb (or, rather, the futon), as a queen-sized bed seemed too small for the three of us. But even with just C and me in bed, she was getting up at least 3-4 times a night. It made sense, I guess: if I were tossing and turning or making noises while she was in light sleep, I'd wake her up. So then we tried the "transfer" technique, which involved putting her to sleep next to me and then transferring her to a crib in our room. Didn't work so much. She'd get up hysterical, unable to be calmed down unless I played for her her favorite videos.
Friday, April 8, 2011
"I'm Fat!"
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Et tu, M&Ms?
Being preggo, I downed nearly an entire jumbo-sized bag of peanut M&Ms…after which I read this post on huffingtonpost (my source for all things raging liberal and WTH?):
Do food dyes cause ADHD and cancers? I’ve been following the debate, but the bottom line is, who knows? Maybe it’s all the sugar in our kids’ diets? What I do know is that I certainly don’t trust the FDA to look after my or C’s interests. (How is it that the Europeans have gotten us beat on another safety issue yet again?) So I’m going to apply Laurie David’s advice, originally intended for the FDA, and “assum[e] chemicals are dangerous until proven safe”, which is not to say that C won’t be able to enjoy the occasional sprinkle-covered donut. Let’s just say that we’re going to be conscientious consumers of processed products (at least when C starts to eat voluntarily).
Babies in Cabs
Okay, New Yorkers. One thing I’ve seen now a couple of times that just makes me sick to my stomach is a parent without a car seat getting into a cab with a baby strapped onto him/her via Ergo or Baby Bjorn. I know, I get it. It’s a pain in the a** to lug around a car seat, and very often, you don’t plan the cab trip in advance. Maybe the buses aren’t running that day, or the subway station is closed for maintenance or whatever, and so you’re stuck. But before you get into a cab with your baby without a car seat, take a look at the video in this link. If that doesn’t make you think twice about getting into a cab, I honestly don’t know what will.
Update on the Heimlich Clear Cream
Cell Phone Pix of the Kids
So color me paranoid, perhaps, but due to a recent brush with what I thought was a potential stalker (and actually may be, though I haven’t heard from him in a while), I feel somewhat justified. I’ve gone through all of my Facebook privacy settings and set them to “Friends Only”, I’ve de-friended people I don’t know, I’ve removed as much information from the internet as I can (though not wholly successfully), etc. So imagine my horror when I found out that I’ve been broadcasting my exact location whenever I’ve taken a photo of my adorable daughter with my blackberry. Thankfully, I’ve only posted photos of C on Facebook, and a google search reveals no photos of her. Anyway, if that scares the bejebus out of you, check out this news clip:
And since this particular news clip doesn’t tell you how to remedy the situation, check out this informational website, which will give you information on how to disable geo-tagging on your smartphone.
In the meantime, cheese! :)
Vaccines
I normally try to stay out of the vaccine fray, since I respect both sides of the debate. I will leave it to the experts to debate the whole vaccine/autism connection, since a) I’m no expert, and 2) I’m pretty much an agnostic when it comes to that particular issue. But as someone who subscribes to a more holistic approach to health, I have been increasingly disturbed by the sheer number of vaccines now given to kids. (Hep-B at birth? What? We respectfully declined that one. And now they’re trying to mandate vaccines for HPV?) Again, I’m not anti-vaccine. Just a bit cautious.
So as I was doing my research on vaccinations, I came across “The Vaccine Book”, by Dr. Sears, which I thought was incredibly well-balanced and easy-to-read, weighing the pros and cons of each kind of vaccine. What’s more, for those parents who are uncomfortable with the idea of such an intense vaccination schedule, he provides an alternative vaccination schedule, which C is following (with some adjustments). So, again, ultimately, C will get all of her required vaccinations, but the shots will be more spread out. Our pediatrician was happy to comply, and I can breathe a bit easier.
So to reiterate, I am not anti-vaccination, so no need to write angry notes to me about how irresponsible I am. And I also know that there are millions of kids out there who are fine on the standard vaccination schedule, so no replies to that effect necessary. :) Ultimately, this post is from one slightly more paranoid mom to another.
Anyway, here’s the link to the book:
Eczema
So I always felt badly for kids I saw with eczema. Looked painful and unpleasant, and I always thanked God that C never had to deal with it. Little did I know. Sure enough, around two months ago, I noticed that there was a rough dry patch behind her knees. It soon spread and started turning red and raw. Then scabby. I also noticed that where the earlobe met her jawline, she had what looked like a scabby crack. Argh. The pediatrician confirmed it: eczema. Argh. No doubt caused in part by her shabby diet (more on that in another post).
The ped recommended the usual. Hydrocortisone, a steroid. But then she stopped herself because she knew me better. Haha. What I didn’t tell her was that I was already on it. I had ordered Heimlich Clear Cream, which had gotten AMAZING reviews, from Amazon and was waiting for it in the mail. In the meantime, when we got home, I cracked open a homemade calendula salve I had bought a couple of years ago from a tiny homeopathic store in Switzerland. It had been touted as a cure-all for skin ailments, and I had just found it again going through my medicine cabinet. Because I knew I had to wait a couple of days for the Heimlich Clear Cream, I thought, what the heck? Might as well give this calendula salve a try. Astoundingly, in a 48-hour period, C’s eczema had cleared up considerably. But then I received the Heimlich Clear Cream, which I was determined to use since I had just spent $30 on it. And even more astoundingly, over a weekend, C’s eczema had cleared up completely. The only thing left is some slight discoloration behind the knees, no doubt discoloration from the scabbing.
Curious, I looked at the ingredients. You guessed it: calendula. Plus arnica, a powerful natural anti-inflammatory. Coincidence?
I laugh now when I read reviews about Heimlich Clear Cream on Amazon. There is so much skepticism out there, evidenced by comments like, “This cream must contain steroids…Medically speaking, the results cannot be explained by the company’s listed ingredients.” That kind of comment obviously comes from a reviewer so biased by Western medicine that s/he is incapable of entertaining the possibility that homeopathic remedies may be just as effective as Western medicine sometimes.
Anyway, if $30 is too steep a price for you, California Baby makes its own calendula cream, which is apparently pretty effective as well. Less than half of what Heimlich costs, but as effective? Would love to hear from someone who’s used it.
- http://www.amazon.com/Heimlich-Natural-Clear-Cream-Delicate/dp/B003CNUN2C/ref=sr_1_1?
- http://www.amazon.com/California-Baby-509-2-Calendula-Cream/dp/B0010Z4N8E/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1300075190&sr=1-1ie=UTF8&s=hpc&qid=1300074900&sr=8-1
In the meantime, C and I are happy campers!!!!
Car Seat Follow-Up
So The NY Times has entered the fray.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/03/22/health/policy/22carseat.html
My only issue with this is that I think that 2 is still too young…Heck, maybe we should all be facing backwards (driver excepted)!
(I’ve cut and pasted the article here.)
Rear-Facing Car Seats Advised at Least to Age of 2
Toddlers are usually switched from rear-facing to forward-facing car seats right after their first birthday — an event many parents may celebrate as a kind of milestone. But in a new policy statement, the nation’s leading pediatricians’ group says that is a year too soon.
The advice from the American Academy of Pediatrics, issued Monday, is based primarily on a 2007 University of Virginia study finding that children under 2 are 75 percent less likely to suffer severe or fatal injuries in a crash if they are facing the rear.
“A baby’s head is relatively large in proportion to the rest of his body, and the bones of his neck are structurally immature,” said the statement’s lead author, Dr. Dennis R. Durbin, scientific co-director of the Center for Injury Research and Prevention at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia. “If he’s rear-facing, his entire body is better supported by the shell of the car seat. When he’s forward-facing, his shoulders and trunk may be well restrained, but in a violent crash, his head and neck can fly forward.”
The new policy statement also advises that older children should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until they are 4 feet 9 inches tall, and 8 to 12 years old. A booster seat allows the vehicle’s lap and shoulder seat belt to fit properly, meaning the lap portion of the belt fits low across the hips and pelvis, and the shoulder portion fits across the middle of the shoulder and chest.
“Our recommendations are meant to help parents move away from gospel-held notions that are based on a child’s age,” Dr. Durbin said. “We want them to recognize that with each transition they make, from rear-facing to forward-facing, to booster seats, there is a decline in the safety of their child. That’s why we are urging parents to delay these transitions for as long as possible.”
Safety advocates applaud the new policy, but say the transition from rear- to forward-facing is usually the one that parents are least willing to delay.
“People cheer when they turn their kid around at one year, but hopefully some day they’ll cheer at how long they were able to keep their child rear-facing,” said Debbi Baer, a labor and delivery nurse in Baltimore who has been a car safety advocate for children for more than 30 years.
The academy’s previous policy, from 2002, said it was safest for infants and toddlers to ride facing the rear, and cited 12 months and 20 pounds as the minimum requirements for turning the car seat forward. But Ms. Baer, a certified child passenger safety technician, said parents tended to take that as a hard and fast rule.
“A lot of parents consider turning the car seat around as another developmental milestone that shows how brilliant and advanced their child is,” she said, “and they don’t realize that it’s making their child less safe.”
Ms. Baer says the evidence from other countries is compelling: Sweden, for instance, where children face the rear until age 4, has the world’s lowest highway fatality rate for children under 6.
Seven years ago, Ed Weissberg and his wife, Edda, of Baltimore, took Ms. Baer’s advice, and say it saved their daughter Renana’s life.
The couple and their three children were traveling north on Interstate 95 when they were broadsided by a car that had had a blowout. Their minivan flipped into the air, sailed over three lanes of traffic and landed on the shoulder, upside down.
“The E.M.T.’s told me later that as soon as they saw our car, they were ready to take out our bodies,” said Mr. Weissberg, who now lives in Israel with his family. Instead, they found the entire family nearly unscathed, with all three children suspended upside down, still securely strapped in their car seats.
“People thought we were crazy for keeping our 2-year-old rear-facing, but if she had been facing forward, she wouldn’t be alive today,” he said.
Dr. Alisa Baer, a pediatrician at Morgan Stanley Children’s Hospital in New York (and Debbi Baer’s daughter), said Renana Weissberg’s case was far from unique.
“It’s a horrible term,” she said, “but E.M.T.’s call the rear-facing seat ‘the orphan seat’ because in a bad car accident, that child is often the only one who survives.”
Until recently, most car seats that could be turned to face the rear did not accommodate children weighing more than 20 pounds. Today, however, the limits are closer to 30 to 35 pounds, and a few go to 45 pounds.
Dr. Baer said she felt so strongly that if a parent wants to install a forward-facing seat for a child younger than 2, “I tell them, ‘If you really want to make a stupid decision for your child, you can do it, but I’m not going to help you.’ ”
She noted that parents often told her that their 2-year-olds would be uncomfortable with their legs squashed against the back of the seat, and that they might be more likely to break their legs in a crash. Neither is true, she said.
“I always reassure parents that just because it looks uncomfortable to you doesn’t mean that it is for a child,” said Dr. Baer.
Rear- or Forward-Facing Car Seat?
As an urban mommy, I don’t often have to transport my kid in a car — mercifully. And as an urban kid, C just barely tolerates sitting in a car seat. (Wonder if suburban kids feel differently, since they’re more habituated?). Up until now, C has been rear-facing, but given how boring it must be for C to sit facing the back of the car for long stretches of time, I had often wondered when I could turn her around to face the front.
I know the recommendation in the United States is that the kid should remain rear-facing until at least one year old and (not “or”) 20 pounds. But there’s a lot of evidence out there that kids should stay rear-facing for as long as possible — even until 3 or 4. What???
- http://www.car-safety.org/rearface.html
- http://www.gazettenet.com/2010/01/05/car-seats-face-forward-or-backward?SESS1f79ed70dea0402b20c3afc657399e31=gnews
Anyway, articles like these scared the bejebus out of me, and I’m keeping C rear-facing until she’s 18.